when narcissus falls in love

For the self-centered individual, infatuation takes on a love-hate form. The newly-beloved is also reviled, as competition and usurper. The frantic urgency to know and possess (and perhaps, to conquer) the other is an attempt demystify the holy, tear down the pedestal and unseat the enthroned -- thus, restoring order and reaffirming one's place in the center of the universe.